The Duggar Family’s 21 House Guidelines

April 4, 2011 — 12 Comments

Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar live in Arkansas with nineteen of their 20 (that’s right, twenty) children. They were approached about doing a documentary on their large family. They wanted to “share with the world that children are a blessing from God,” so they agreed to do it. It became the highest-rated show ever on the Discovery Channel. Since then, they have been featured on television shows and in newspapers all across the world, sharing their biblical principles and message.

The Duggar Family

So how do the Duggars maintain their balance given such a busy lifestyle?   They strive to manage their home and raise their children with biblical principles. There is so much more to say, but the following list, which is attached to their (very large) refrigerator door, will give you a hint of the climate they aim for in their home.

Duggar House Guidelines:

1.     Always use soft words, even when you don’t feel well.

2.     Always display kind actions and joyful attitudes, even if you have been mistreated. Have the right response by quickly forgiving others in your heart even before they ask.

3.     Always be enthusiastic and look for opportunities to praise others’ character.

4.     Always deflect praise and be grateful to God and others for the ways they have benefited your life.

5.     Always use manners and be respectful of others and their belongings.

6.     Always do what is right, even when others may not, or when no one is looking.

7.     Thank God for how He made you, for what He has given you and everything He allows you to go through. (Romans 8:28)

8.     Don’t mock or put others down. Develop compassion and pray for others.

9.     Never argue, complain, or blame. Quickly admit when you have done wrong and ask for forgiveness (even if you were only 10% at fault). Don’t wait till you’re caught. Be sure your sins will find you out. He who covers his sin will not prosper, but he that confesses and forsakes it shall find mercy.

10.  Have a tough accountability/prayer partner to daily share your heart with and to keep you in line (your parents, spouse). The power of sin is in secrecy.

11.  Be attentive and look for ways to serve others with sincere motives and no thought of self-gain.

12.  Think pure thoughts (Philippians 4:8, Romans 13:14).

The newest addition (& first grandchild), eldest son Josh's daughter Mackynzie.

13.  Always give a good report of others. Don’t gossip! Never tale-bear unless physical harm will come to someone. (Use Matthew 18.)

14. Never raise a hand to hit.

15.  Never raise a foot to kick.

16.  Never raise an object to throw.

17.  Never raise a voice to yell.

18.  Never raise an eye to scowl.

19.  Use one toy/activity at a time. Share!

20.  Do your best to keep your surroundings neat, clean and organized.

21.  Never let the sun go down on your wrath. (Don’t go to bed angry or guilty)

22.  Amendment J.O.Y. – Put Jesus first, Others second, Yourself last.

You can read more about their amazing family on their website.

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12 responses to The Duggar Family’s 21 House Guidelines

  1. Love this! If all family’s lived by all these rules we would have a very peaceful home! Love this post!

  2. I love this! It needs to be posted on OUR fridge door, too! We all should aim for this Christ-like atmosphere in our homes.

  3. I love this! I know Scott Enlow – he lives here in Nashville and is a customer of mine! :)  He does all the photo and videography for this family.  I certainly feel convicted after reading this list. They are a great example to us all!

    Great post Josh

  4. they should have been sterilized LONG ago !

  5. maybe “god” will take them all is one swoop! (like a flash flood or car accident!)

  6. G_D! probably does not exist, just enjoy your life and be good to others.

  7. I have just copied these and am posting them on the fridge door in my house too. Thank you for sharing. Praying we can all be changed in my family for the better.

  8. Annie Holmes-Butterick April 3, 2015 at 4:16 pm

    20? Living children of Jim Bob, and Michelle? How so? Michelle miscarried with Jubilee, 4 mos. in, ahd she would have been 20. Is there something we’ve not heard about yet? Hmm?? =)

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