Who do you love being with the most? Think of the people you enjoy being around.
Now ask yourself this question: Why?
What makes me love being with them so much? Why do I enjoy their company? There are lots of possible answers. We love being with those we are close to, like our family. We love being with people we have a lot in common with.
But I think one of the main appeals is we love being with those who validate and encourage us.
We don’t want to be around negative people (no one does). Pessimism, whining, anger, and complaining are not attractive. But when someone compliments us, we feel great. When someone notices something we did and shows appreciation for it, we smile. When someone encourages us, we feel stress melt away.
Those are the kind of people we love to be around. And those are the kind of people we should want to be.
You can make someone’s day better. Here are a few suggestions to get you started:
- Do unto others – What makes your day better? What brings a smile to your face? Think of the little things you like for others to do for you, then follow Jesus’ advice in Matthew 7:12 and do it for someone else today. Do you like when someone sends you an encouraging text? Then send one to someone and make their day better.
- It doesn’t have to be big – You don’t have to pay off someone’s mortgage or detail their car. (Although I’m sure both would be appreciated) Even the smallest little action can make a difference in their day. A simple smile. A short note. A friendly hug. It might be the only ray of sunshine on an otherwise cloudy day for them.
- Say their name – I’m not sure why, but we love hearing people say our name. I had an aunt who was magical with this. She just had a way of saying your name that made it sound so sweet and special. It’s one of the things I remember most about her. Make a note of people’s names when you first meet them (write it down if you have to). It will impress them and make them feel special when you remember their name.
- Compliment, compliment, compliment – It doesn’t have to be cheesy. It doesn’t have to be something major. Simply work on noticing the good things others do and making mention of them. Try giving out at least 10 compliments today. You’ll be surprised by the optimistic effect on your attitude.
What other ways could you add value to someone and make their day better?