RELATIONSHIP SURVIVAL SKILL #1: Don’t Keep Score

February 4, 2013

“Love keeps no record of wrongs.” – 1 Corinthians 13:5 paraphrase

How does this verse apply to everyday life?

Hidden Scoreboards

Keeping score is easy. Keeping score in relationships is even easier.

Scoreboard

You may not realize this, but you have an internal scoreboard. We all do. It doesn’t have LED lights or advertisements on it. But it’s there, hidden in our heart.

And this scoreboard doesn’t keep track of touchdowns or goals. It keeps track of relationships.

Every time we do something nice for someone, we subconsciously add points to our side. Every time we sacrifice for someone, our point total rises.

On the flip side, every time we feel mistreated, we subtract points from their side. When others say unkind words, or fail to meet our needs, their score drops.

And the funny thing is, our score is almost always higher than theirs. We always feel like we treat others better than we get treated. Our score is higher. So we win. But in winning, we lose.

Turning Off the Scoreboard

“Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times?” – Matthew 18:21

Peter wants to know when the game is over. Seven to nothing is a skunk, right Jesus?

Jesus reaches over and unplugs Peter’s scoreboard:

“Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven.” – Matthew 18:22

Love doesn’t keep score, Peter. Love keeps no record of wrongs. Love gives, even when it’s not deserved. Love lets hurts go. Love covers a multitude of sins.

If you’re going to have successful relationships, you’re going to have to unplug the scoreboard.

After all, you’re not the first person to unplug it. See John 3:16.

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